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Post by wishlesshollow on Aug 20, 2004 9:02:00 GMT 10
hey firstly i wanted to thank you for all the advice that i got and to tell you i tried it and friends seems to be all that there is available. But if it was i wouldnt even want to be with her now. I didnt realise how much somebody can hurt you when you care for them so much. You really do have to take the good with the bad i guess.
Anyway i dont know if this is the right section for this but i thought as the other post was here then i might aswell put this in here aswell. I am going to sound so wierd when i write this but the girl that i thought that i really loved is now someone that i cant even think about without getting so hurt. i know that i care for her alot but it hurts becuase i know that it wont be anything more. not that i want it but i think i had convinced myself that is what i wanted.
Its wierd we fell out over everything that happened i guess things at intensity just burn out eventualy they have to. But now nothing is like it was and i am so messed up becuase of it. its just adding to alot of things that are going on. anyway that is something else.
thankyou for reading this, any advice anyone has would be appreciated . i just had to get this off my chest/ mind becuase i needed people to know and i knew that i wouldnt be judged when i wrote on here like my friends would just telling me to move on and that stuff. i know that it is what i should do but i am. anyway thankyou
*bows*
wishlesshollow
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Post by GabrielaJade on Aug 20, 2004 10:06:58 GMT 10
I didn't read the post you were talking about,but it sounds like she left a big impretion on you.I just want you to know that I understand how you must feel and think I have been there before.I also wanted you to know that i am always here for you talk to if you want as well as anyone else I am always open for a listening ear and a "shoulder to cry on" (in some cases).  |
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Post by wishlesshollow on Aug 21, 2004 5:58:44 GMT 10
Thankyou its good to know that there are people that have felt the same at least i know there is some hope of eventualy getting over it. but it is seriously hard. i still have absolutly no idea how to act or what to do around her or speaking to her ( so confusing)
*bows*
wishlesshollow
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Post by GabrielaJade on Aug 21, 2004 11:03:55 GMT 10
Who knows you may never get over her,but you will learn to move on...like I did.On how to act,talk and what to do around her just take a deep breath and try the best you can to be yourself,that is always the best thing to do is to be yourself. Just give it time,I know we may not always be patient (speak from experiance  ) but things take time.I wish you the best of luck and like I said before am always here for you if you need me. ;D |
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Post by wishlesshollow on Aug 21, 2004 11:23:19 GMT 10
thanks. i know being myself is the best course of action. But i get to the point where i dont know if i am trying to act to normaly that i end up acting abnormaly (i better not think to much i am hard of thinking ;D). I may take u up on the offer of a shoulder to cry on *sigh* but i am sure that even if i dont move on you are right will learn to live with it. i will try patience you are very right it is something i should use. *bows and kisses hand*   wishlesshollow |
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Post by Minara on Aug 23, 2004 2:54:19 GMT 10
WLH, I totally understand where you're coming from. I myself have spent over a year in a situation like this, where a friendship developed into a little something more, the only difference in my case is that it was mutual.
After some time, the person I felt for found another and as such, I had to deal with the fact that they were over me and had moved on.
It's often hard when you feel something for someone who doesn't feel the same about you. I can say that due to my denial about him moving on, I have lost him now and I am not even friends with him anymore. We left our relationship as friends but I know that because of what we went through, and all of the things I had said to him that I didn't mean to, he's moved on and isn't in interested in me anymore.
It still hurts that I can't talk to him anymore as he has been one of my very closest friends for over a year, but I guess it's the price I need to pay.
I don't know if my advice is sound or not, but maybe just give her some space and hopefully you'll be able to reconcile with her. You might just have to bury those affectionate feelings for the sake of your friendship.
Please, trust me.
Min
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Post by wishlesshollow on Aug 23, 2004 11:01:49 GMT 10
thank you min i think you are right about burying the affection becuase it will destroy the friendship but it will also probly drag me down with it i guess. Thankyou for sharing what you went through as i know it must be painfull to remember it yet alone tell people about it ![]() i8.photobucket.com/albums/a9/TearsForeverFrozen/Smilies/HUG10.gif [/IMG] . i do trust your oppinion alot min becuase it makes alot of sense and i guess i needed to hear it out loud. still does not make it easier for some reason though. thankyou for taking the time to try to help me which you have alot. *bows* wishlesshollow |
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Post by Louis on Aug 24, 2004 12:40:26 GMT 10
wishlesshollow I know that I can not do anything to help you in this situation but maybe I can share with you something that happened to me.
I met a lovely lady who became a wonderful friend, we could talk about many things together, then I started to have feelings for her because she understood me and we got along so well, the only problem was that she already had a boyfriend, that didnt stop me from falling in love with her, although even to this day I am not sure that it was really love in the true sence of the word.. maybe it was just a really strong friendship love that I mistook for romantic love because of the fact that we got along so well... In the end she chose her boyfriend over me and we stopped talking, that really hurt me and I didnt want anything more to do with her, I even got a girlfriend, that didnt work out because it was just a way to help me get over what I was feeling... I did get another girlfriend who I am still happily in love with and the good thing is that even though me and my lady friend kind of stopped being friends for a little while we are now able to say that we once again have a friendship.. She is once again one of my really good friends...
So even though my story is different from yours in a few ways it is the same, the falling in love, being hurt..
The thing is that she probably sees this situation totally different from what you do, I know that my lady friend sees what happened between us a bit differently from what I see it..
Give it time and I am sure things will work themselves out.
Regards Louis
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