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Post by aceldama13 on Jul 5, 2005 8:06:33 GMT 10
what dos the burning folder mean?
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Post by Beautiful Disgrace on Jul 10, 2005 23:25:10 GMT 10
Hi a yellow burning folder means that the Topic is very active and has had a certain amount of posts and the red burning folder means that a topic is a really hot topic with loads of replies... Hope I was helpful
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Post by aceldama13 on Jul 12, 2005 7:30:44 GMT 10
yes you were very helpful thanks for the info
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Post by GabrielaJade on Aug 12, 2005 8:40:40 GMT 10
Ok, I have another random thought
How old in your opinion do you think someone has to be to seriously think about marriage and children? Or do you think there is a certain age?
~Gab~
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Post by wishlesshollow on Aug 19, 2005 9:29:36 GMT 10
that really is up to the people involved. i personaly know that at the moment i really would not want that in my life but hey i am only 17 and rather young though not imature!!! i must add lol
i think that those topics need to be considered from the relationship that they would be coming from not purely on the age of the pople involved. if you are in love then why should you wait and if you are young that doesnt mean you havent got the ability to know what you want even though people say age is a blessing puerly for its wisdom
*bows*
WLH
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Post by aceldama13 on Aug 24, 2005 15:20:24 GMT 10
holly $h!+ you are only 17 ?!
i am 17 too and you seem much more insightful than i.
so i guess my question is, why are you, or do you seem to be, so much more insightful than the average 17 year old?
kind of a dumb question i know, but i am very psychologically analytical. (i like to try to figure people out)
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Post by † Lestat † on Aug 24, 2005 23:56:54 GMT 10
How old in your opinion do you think someone has to be to seriously think about marriage and children? Or do you think there is a certain age? I think age is just a number and these things are better judged by your mental ability to handle them. Take my mother, she turned 15 about 2 weeks before she gave birth to my brother. She needed nan's help to look after him because she continued on with school. My twin sister and I were born 5 years after our brother and Mum and Dad had been married for 2 years by then. There are 10 of us kid in total and we all have the same mother and father. They have been together basically for the last 32 years, give or take a year when they spit up for 6 months. My mum was only 10 when her and Dad started going out. So that worked despite the ages they were. Yet I have a cousin who at 36 just got married and had her first baby because up until that point in her life she didnt feel able to cope with being married or having a family. So like i said I think it depends on your mental ability to handle those type of things and if you are not mentally ready then thats when things dont work out and sadly sometimes you dont know that your not ready until you are in that situation.
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Post by Vetala on Aug 25, 2005 16:53:28 GMT 10
Aug 11, 2005, 3:40pm, GabrielaJade wrote:How old in your opinion do you think someone has to be to seriously think about marriage and children? Or do you think there is a certain age? I agree with Lestat, in that it totally depends on the person on how old they are when they get married. Everyone is different and everyone can handle certain issues at different stages of their lives. My mom was 19 and my dad was 22 when they got married in 1981. I was born in December of 1984 (making my mom 22 and my dad 25), then my brother was born in 1988 (making my mom 26 and my dad 29). My parent's were married for almost 20 years before they separated, and the divorce was final a year after that. My friend was 21 when she got married this May and her husband just turned 30 last month. Last year my friend was 22 when she was married and her husband is 11 years older than her. My cousin just got married 2 weeks ago and he just turned 23... so it all depends on you and the person you're going to marry really. I personally don't think many people are ready for marriage at such a young age, simply because I have always said that I would NEVER get married until I was done with school and secure in my job before settling down (which won't be till I'm about 28). I just think that you need to make sure you're financially stable, you both have jobs, and you both are capable of supporting yourselves and children whenever they come along. I myself have many disillusions of marriage and really don't want to get married. I'm not saying that I won't EVER get married, because I don't know what the future will have in store for me. But I personally would rather "live in sin" the rest of my life with my man, acting as a married couple, as opposed to being LEGALLY BOUND to him for the rest of my life (or until one of us gets sick of each other). As I said before, I'm EXTREMELY pessimistic when it comes to love and marriage, due to my own parent's divorce, my aunt's divorce, other divorce's within my family, and the divorce's of my friends parents. So ya. But don't let MY problems sway anyone's ideals of marriage, because I do believe that marrige is a beautiful thing if the 2 people in the relationship can make it work. But ya... so to sum up this rant... as I said, the "right" age of marriage is really up to you and your partner. Some people are absolutely ready for marriage at a young age, and other's aren't ready until they're out of college and secure in a job. Everyone was raised different and have different ideals. Some people are more mature than others. Some people have lived through traumatic events that have made them grow up faster than their peers. There's just SO MANY factors that play into the psychological and emotional make-up of a person, thus making one more apt for the married life at the age of 18 as opposed to their peers. So I hope this has helped! ~Megan
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Post by GabrielaJade on Aug 26, 2005 4:44:31 GMT 10
I agree with all of you. I know these two kids I went to school with that got married when we were in 8th grade(about 13 or 14 years old) and they are still together. A friend of mine also got married at a young age of 17 and now at 22 she is still happily married so I agree with all of you it just depends on the mentality of a person.
An example of why I asked this question is I have a 34,35 year old that likes me and a lot of my younger friends think he is too old for me.I really wanted other peoples opinions on this matter. Any other random questions?
~Gab~
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Post by Quinn-Ann on Oct 7, 2005 14:40:51 GMT 10
Oh!!!! i have a random question, if someone is willing to answer it!!!! My question is: is falling in love and having just one person in your life, for the rest of your life worth it? Or are there more things to ask? Kinda a personal question, u know. http://http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a9/TearsForeverFrozen/Smilies/IMSMILIN.gif [/IMG]
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Post by Petronia on Oct 8, 2005 9:39:19 GMT 10
Oh!!!! i have a random question, if someone is willing to answer it!!!! My question is: is falling in love and having just one person in your life, for the rest of your life worth it? Or are there more things to ask? Kinda a personal question, u know. Maybe it is just because I am old but I do not get your question or at least the last part where you go from asking about having just one person in your life to love, Then you ask if there are more things to ask.. what does asking questions and love have to do with each other or are they two different questions and not part of the same one? Perhaps you were thinking that your question wasnt important and that there are other people out there who might take offence at your question because they feel there are better things to ask? Your question - "is falling in love and having just one person in your life, for the rest of your life worth it?"My reply - These days it is not very often that you hear about a couple lasting all their lives together. Divorce is such an easy way of getting out of a marriage which means that you can marry anyone you want to and it doesnt have to be the right one because if you make a mistake then you can just through that marriage away and get another one. Love is a strange emotion and its so easy to fall in love and feel that this person is the perfect one, the one you will spend the rest of your life with, but just because you feel that way now it doesnt mean it will last as your feelings may chance or the other persons feelings may change which is something you can not control. I do believe that there is more than one person out there that you can be happy with forever, some people are like 2 halves of a broken medalion and they fit perfectly together were as others may not fit exactly. Then you have the ones who dont fit at all but they keep trying. I think if someone can find that one special person that they fit with, that they are willing to work to over come the ups and the downs together with, that they do want to be together forever with, then that is something worth holding onto. But love can easily trick you into believe you have that when you dont and only time can tell if the love is real and worth holding on to forever. ~Petronia~
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Post by Quinn-Ann on Oct 18, 2005 6:52:11 GMT 10
Thanks. But I dont like the thought of divorce, I believe that love and marriage shoud lst forever.
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Post by GabrielaJade on Dec 7, 2005 7:08:20 GMT 10
Couldn't have said it better myself Petrona. Also like you Quinn- ann I also do not like Divorce to me it is like giving up on something important. ok my turn for another random question...
Do you think that long distant relationships can work out in the end and if they are worth it?
~Gab~
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Post by Quinn-Ann on Dec 7, 2005 15:02:13 GMT 10
Any relationship is worth it if both people ahve really strong feelinsg for one another. If only on of the two of them has strong feelings about long distance, and believes that it can be sustained, whereas the other person doesn't care, then no.
I believe in long distance relationships cause they are what I ahve been envolved with. Long distance relationships allow people to see whether or no they can trust their partner.
If they call, send letters or e-mails veryday, then they know that they can trust them. But if things start to go strange, then it can only mean one thing.
Long distance relationships are also good on self-reflectence. (I know I can't sell, so you all don't need to tell me) When you are away from your partner for a prolonged amount of time, you reflect on the circumstances of the relationship.
So to your question, yes. I believe that long time relationships can last and are worth it.
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Post by GabrielaJade on Aug 11, 2006 4:15:40 GMT 10
Ok since no one has a random question lately let me think of one.hmm..... What body type do you seem to be attracted toon the opposite sex or vice versa?
I seem to be attracted to the guys that are really skinny...don't ask me why I just seem to gravitate to them. I do sometimes like the little muscular guys(lean) like Leand Chapman if any of you know who I am talking about. (Son of Dog the Bounty Hunter)
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